Feeling anxious or overwhelmed, perhaps especially if you are organizing things for any holidays you celebrate or if the holidays have difficult memories or concerns?
I know I’ve felt some overwhelm recently, myself. I called on different supports, with sickness going around our house and all that has meant with changed plans and folks not feeling great, including me!
In a moment when the anxiety isn’t too big, I suggest you take a deep breath, and then another deep breath. I know I’ve said it before, but, I think it’s worth repeating.
Often, if you can pause in these moments, things start to settle down, and then you can go to other support tools. I really like to “check in” with myself after things settle a little bit. Doing a quick journal or just ask myself what might help me right then. And I’ve been making requests of others too. Even if you don’t know exactly what you need, telling someone you know will be supportive you need something can help!
And, if you can make certain supports a habit in times without anxiety or of low anxiety, then they are easier to call on in other times. Always reminding yourself you have made your way through these moments before. Because sometimes the skills you have won’t be a match for the anxiety of the moment. But, that “mantra” or reminder, “It’s going to be ok. I’ve made it through this before,” over and over, might be the thing to resort to.
Just a few thoughts to share at this time of the year.
I also saw a link to songs that have been shown to reduce anxiety I wanted to share. I haven’t checked them out, but have found songs supportive at times in the past, and the idea of music supporting health in different ways keeps “showing up” in different conversations and venues. So, here that is: https://www.fastcompany.com/90274251/song-reduces-anxiety-neuroscience.
I would love to support you with in-depth coaching so you know what works well for you as 2018 draws to a close and 2019 begins. So, you have specific plans and tools in place and a deeper connection to self to get clarity about what serves you best, and be able to love yourself more deeply with the anxiety however it is now, and as it shifts. Next Friday December 7th is last day for the year of 20% off. I’m also enjoying the idea of supporting others with projects that are stimulating extra anxiety for folks if they involve writing or photography, such as holiday letters or gifts. And, my books and notecards are available for holidays. Send me a message, email Kathryn@wholelovingwellness.com or call 317-514-1462 to explore possibilities.
With deep love-Kathryn
Add something you love or that brings you contentment to each day. Starting out with once a week is fine too. It can be simple and as short as one minute, and, if needed you can adapt it to something you can do even if you cannot find a moment to yourself. Examples include deep breathing, stretching, drinking a glass of water, opening a favorite book, or looking at a favorite picture.
And, a second part, if needed, especially if you have some alone or venting-welcome space, you could even do a vent aloud and then probably shift to something joyful for few minutes. I at least have been realizing I sometimes need some “vent” space, and just did that alone today. It felt great and then I quickly shifted to deepened love, contentment, confidence, and possibility. It’s all welcome, with loving intention and heart. I’m reminded of the power of not just empathy but self-expression as explained by NVC (Nonviolent Communication), and also about different types of self-expression. And I’m thinking how “judgement” or frustration or anger which can be part of venting, when given space for me to hear it from myself, or be heard by a loved one, can help me feel “heard” and also help me shift to see what I’m feeling and valuing that is having me feel judgy or upset. I let myself shift, after venting eased things, even more with deep breathing and with a journaling exercise talking to my wiser self.
Lastly, I’m continuing to explore gratitude and also enjoying silliness and fun and cozyness and love today, and being open to how this might show up.
Would love to hear if any of this resonates with you or if you do any actions related to this. The action-taking can be an important part as well!
With deep love-Kathryn
Gratitude and challenge thoughts for today for me: Has been a day of unexpected moments, compared with what I would have thought a couple of days ago, including feelings of “another thing!” mostly with my son, Joey, being sick and then, after seeming better, hurting his finger right before going up for bed, enough we thought it might be broken and he was very sad last night before falling asleep (he seems to not even notice it hurting at all today, big gratitude there!). But, I have been grateful for a lot of cozy moments with Joey on a day where I had expected to do some housework and business work, after yesterday of mostly time with him too, with some help from a grandparent so I snuck in some things. Grateful I could be home with him and that I was healthy enough and awake enough with not enough sleep, and trusting myself, to do and be what he needed as he worked through some rough moments throwing up and feeling sick.
Grateful that, even though the challenge came up of the thoughts of “another thing” and “when can I ever work on my business,” the real major thought and trust ended up being to be fully where I was, as much as I could. To come back to joy, gratitude, and trust. And some surprise joys not directly about time with Joey, including a few moments to read a book about gratitude actually, taking some time to really focus on gratitude including gratitude in silly ways like going through the alphabet and being grateful for different kinds of foods and animals, and a phone call catching up with a friend while Joey cozied and played a bit as he was feeling better. I probably would have spent this time on housework or work for my coaching had he not been sick.
And I was so glad that we were still breastfeeding as it helped him to settle, nap, and he was able to keep food down from 11 a.m. until now, at almost 9 p.m. And it was such a joy when, toward late afternoon and early evening, he had lovely smiling moments after being quite cuddly, but not very energetic and clearly not feeling well. That included him repeating my saying “dude” while I was on the phone with my sister-friend and we had such joy and fun over this. I even did a little video. (He doesn’t say a lot of words yet).
And I am grateful for so much family support including my husband, grandparents, and family who aren’t technically family, and for our cat’s patience too. And, as the day ends, I am grateful to do a few of the house things I had planned to do earlier (trash and cat litter), and figure out how I want to post/share this longer-than-usual set of gratitudes, without worrying about editing, and also so that folks can also read the shorter version. And I’m grateful to know I will sleep soon. I’m thinking I will revive my website’s blogposts for today and link to that on social media. I am grateful for the day generally and for my general enjoyment of the day after last night when we thought Joey might have broken his finger and he was so sad and this morning when I felt sick and was concerned I’d have troubles caring for Joey as well as myself.
I’m also grateful for the being ok with my frustrations and feeling challenged as well. That it is “ok” with me to not feel always grateful with every bone in my body, and to express my frustration….even if I am always trusting in love and grateful on that deepest level, and even as I come back to it and fill up with it much more quickly and easily than I used to.